introduction.... ladazia

It was at the age of 16 when me and my grandmothers relationship began to crumble. It was completely shocking! We were so close to one another, yet at this point of time we began miss understanding each other. This happened to my aunts her daughters and my mother. Just never thought this could happen to me. She lost trust, i felt smothered, and jealous. she treated the boys so much better. we began arguing constantly and strong anger and disgust against each other.
Though i felt as if no one ever went through my problems and feelings before i disgussing my issuses with some of my friends and peers and realized i was not alone. there were others who felt my pain. some had similars issues and some with other problems all had siliar time ranges. I call it the turning point!
So what im asking is how can we help adolesents and there parents understand each other during this time range and struggling times. For both parents and children?